Background source: Melissa Askew (royalty-free photo), edited by me.

Dealing with hardship

Note: Just a page to collect stuff I personally find helpful. Quoting a work/person does not mean I necessarily agree with all thoughts put forward in the work/by this person.

Notes to self

- Heavy deliberating can be draining. It can be good to take a rest after engaging in this for a length of time.

- Feeling stressed or in a bad mood can signify a need for a break or increased rest. Getting in some movement to get the blood flowing might also be a good idea.

Epictetus (stoic philosopher)

"Make the best use of what is in your power, and take the rest as it happens. Some things are up to us and some things are not up to us. Our opinions are up to us, and our impulses, desires, aversions—in short, whatever is our own doing. Our bodies are not up to us, nor are our possessions, our reputations, or our public offices, or, that is, whatever is not our own doing."

"We have no power over external things, and the good that ought to be the object of our earnest pursuit, is to be found only within ourselves."

"Practice then from the start to say to every harsh impression, "You are an impression, and not at all the thing you appear to be." Then examine it and test it by these rules you have, and firstly, and chiefly, by this: whether the impression has to do with the things that are up to us, or those that are not; and if it has to do with the things that are not up to us, be ready to reply, "It is nothing to me.""

Sources: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Epictetus, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Serenity_Prayer

Staying in the Present

It is said that focusing attention on the now is a trainable skill. Regularly practicing it is said to make it easier to "come back" and become less attached to troubling thoughts and emotions.

This can be done by focusing on physical sensations like one's breathing, the sensation of the body making contact with furniture or the floor, a soft blanket against skin, concentrating on music or sounds in the surroundings, smells, taste, and many more. This can be practiced in small moments when the thoughts wander.

Below: video that explains meditation/mindfulness and its applications in a practical manner.

Courtney Carver

"When you notice that you aren’t feeling your best, come back to your healthy habits. Don’t spend one moment of your precious time beating yourself up for the things that got in the way, for the ebb and flow or highs and lows. Just come back. Keep coming back for as long as it takes."

Full Post: Keep Coming Back

"Choose less and consider impact over intention. We know how to relax but if we want to be relaxed, we must draw our circles and create a place for love and rest."

Full Post: How to Relax