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The blanket fort - a place for the exhausted and those in need of comforting. Here you will find various things relating to self care and working through problems.

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a small sparkly heart and a video-game style life bar List of healing games

a small sparkly heart and a video-game style life bar List of uplifting shows/videos

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Note: the following points are based on personal experience and are not professional recommendations. Additionally, everyone is different so these things will not work for everyone.

My self-care faves

  • Little book of self-care: A small journal that contains lists of self-care basics, things to do in order to cope with various negative states, etc. Keep in an easily accessible location.

  • Playlist of comfort songs: music that soothes/calms/gives hope. Here are some ideas.

  • Positive Youtube channels: Each person's definition of positivity will vary. For me it's people who acknowledge tough realities of life but keep doing their best to move forward in a constructive manner. May also contain practical advice on handling life stuff.

  • Event log: A book in which I write positive and negative things that happened that day. When I write positive things down even though they are little I will often find that there were many small positives in my day and it doesn't feel as bad.

  • Organizing my surroundings: Even if it's just putting away the pots or throwing that wrapper on the kitchen table into the trash, bringing a tiny bit of order into my surroundings tends to help me feel slightly more at ease.
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    My problem-solving faves

  • Writing your thoughts/worries on a piece of paper: I don't like the term "journaling" because that implies a need for a fancy setup. Just get a piece of paper and write down whatever you're thinking. I find that it forces me to focus differently as I write a sentence. Reading back over it later I often find it easier to separate the different components of my worries and figure out what is actually upsetting me/identify potential factors I can try to change.

  • One step at a time/come back to it later: Confusing/stressful/exhausting tasks can often be divided into several steps. Need to order plane ticket, but the thought makes you sick? One approach: Day 1: open ticket booking site for a few seconds, close it, that's it for the day. Day 2: open ticket booking site, this time do a search for your route. Don't book anything, just look at the results. Day 3: open ticket booking site, search your route, pick your flight and do the booking. Optional: if something causes you trouble during the booking (e.g. having to answer a specific question, needing to select among multiple options) and your stress level increases too much, abort the booking and do it the next day. Chances are you will have an easier time handling the issue, because you're prepared for it happening.

  • Only do part of a task: Low energy can make it hard to finish some tasks, but it may be possible to at least do part of it. Doing part of a task is not losing - it's a lot more than doing nothing and means there's less of the task for you to conquer next time. Examples: just cleaning a corner rather than the whole kitchen, only washing some of the dishes (if they need to be done by hand).